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Showing posts with label Customs And Traditions. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Customs And Traditions. Show all posts
The purposes of marriage in the Bible are for companionship and procreation. In the past, Jewish marriages were usually arranged by parents, but the bride's consent was asked. Jewish weddings can occur any day of the week except on the Sabbath, on Jewish festivals, during the three weeks between the 17th of Tammuz and the 9th of Av, and the "sefirah" period Passover & Shavuot (Lag Ba-Omer and other exceptions).
For a Jewish Wedding, it is customary for the bride to wear white along with a headdress, and a veil. Despite this, Jewish brides from oriental countries wear elaborate costumes richly embroidered. The groom may wear a "kitel" (a white garment) along with a tallit.
Before the ceremony, the groom, in the presence of witnesses, undertakes an act of "kinyan" (the obligations of the Ketubah). This is done by taking a handkerchief or some other object by the Rabbi, lifting it and returning it. The groom and witnesses then sign the Ketubah. The groom is then led to the "Huppah" by two male relatives facing Jerusalem. The bride is led in by the Mothers usually to the accompaniment of a blessing of welcome chanted by the Rabbi. Sometimes the bride is led in 7 circles around the groom to ward off evil spirits.
The bride stands to the right of the groom and the Rabbi recites the marriage blessings over a goblet of wine. Both the bride & groom then drink from the glass.
The groom then places the wedding ring on the forefinger of the bride's right hand and recites the marriage formula. The "ketubah" (marriage contract) is then read, and the 7 marriage benedictions (seven blessings) are recited.
In most ceremonies, the groom then crushes a glass under his right foot and the Rabbi invokes the "priestly blessings". The couple is then escorted away.
TERMS OF INTEREST:
Huppah: The term was originally referred to as the bridal canopy or bridal chamber. It consists of a cloth spread on four staves. The cloth can be of an elaborate design or a large Talis may be spread over the staves.
The Ring: It has become universal Jewish practice to use a ring, except in a few
communities where a coin is used. The ring must belong to the bridegroom and be free of any precious stones. In the ceremony, the groom gives the ring to the bride as an act of acquisition and the bride, by accepting it, becomes his wife.
Ketubah: It is a document recording, in Aramaic, the financial obligations which the husband undertakes toward his wife in respect of their marriage. It was instituted for the purpose of protecting the woman so that the husband would not find it easy to divorce her.
For a Jewish Wedding, it is customary for the bride to wear white along with a headdress, and a veil. Despite this, Jewish brides from oriental countries wear elaborate costumes richly embroidered. The groom may wear a "kitel" (a white garment) along with a tallit.
Before the ceremony, the groom, in the presence of witnesses, undertakes an act of "kinyan" (the obligations of the Ketubah). This is done by taking a handkerchief or some other object by the Rabbi, lifting it and returning it. The groom and witnesses then sign the Ketubah. The groom is then led to the "Huppah" by two male relatives facing Jerusalem. The bride is led in by the Mothers usually to the accompaniment of a blessing of welcome chanted by the Rabbi. Sometimes the bride is led in 7 circles around the groom to ward off evil spirits.
The bride stands to the right of the groom and the Rabbi recites the marriage blessings over a goblet of wine. Both the bride & groom then drink from the glass.
The groom then places the wedding ring on the forefinger of the bride's right hand and recites the marriage formula. The "ketubah" (marriage contract) is then read, and the 7 marriage benedictions (seven blessings) are recited.
In most ceremonies, the groom then crushes a glass under his right foot and the Rabbi invokes the "priestly blessings". The couple is then escorted away.
TERMS OF INTEREST:
Huppah: The term was originally referred to as the bridal canopy or bridal chamber. It consists of a cloth spread on four staves. The cloth can be of an elaborate design or a large Talis may be spread over the staves.
The Ring: It has become universal Jewish practice to use a ring, except in a few
communities where a coin is used. The ring must belong to the bridegroom and be free of any precious stones. In the ceremony, the groom gives the ring to the bride as an act of acquisition and the bride, by accepting it, becomes his wife.
Ketubah: It is a document recording, in Aramaic, the financial obligations which the husband undertakes toward his wife in respect of their marriage. It was instituted for the purpose of protecting the woman so that the husband would not find it easy to divorce her.
By Anna Karden
A best man's speech can make or break a wedding but by using common sense you can make sure your toast is remembered for all the right reasons
A wedding is certainly a nerve racking day for the couple of the day, but the nerves also extend to the best man who has the difficult job of coming up with a memorable speech at the reception.
The main problem people have with their speech is that they overcomplicate things and make things harder for themselves. A good best man's speech should be short and snappy - more than five minutes and people's thought start to wander, longer than seven and people start to get bored. While brevity is important, it's good to use two minutes as your minimum marker.
Confidence is key to delivering a good speech so try to get it written and ready a good while before the day and practise as much as you can. The better you know the key points of your speech, the more relaxed you will be and, remember, the groom chose you to be best man so be yourself.
A good best man's speech includes jokes (good jokes, not dirty ones), a story or two about the couple (how they met, how happy they are together - stories that are appropriate for all ages), a thank you to all who made the wedding possible (such as whoever paid for the event) and, finally, a toast to a successful future.
You should try to make your stories balanced between the bride and the groom, but as you are the groom's best man you may not know the bride as well. In this case, it's always good to talk about the groom's feeling for the bride. This is generally the time to act as a salesman, talking up your friend to the bride's family who may not know the groom - what you tell them may help to form their first impression.
It is always best to err on the side of caution with your speech - being boring or soppy is a lot better than being offensive. Telling dirty jokes or speaking about the groom's ex-girlfriend may get a few laughs from your mates, but the bride's parents and elderly relatives may not be amused, and if it's you that's blamed for ruining the wedding with your inappropriate speech it's more likely to be you than the wedding insurance providers who ends up shelling out compensation.
So follow these tips and help make the wedding a memorable celebration for your best friend.
By Reagan Blackpool
A wedding is certainly a nerve racking day for the couple of the day, but the nerves also extend to the best man who has the difficult job of coming up with a memorable speech at the reception.
The main problem people have with their speech is that they overcomplicate things and make things harder for themselves. A good best man's speech should be short and snappy - more than five minutes and people's thought start to wander, longer than seven and people start to get bored. While brevity is important, it's good to use two minutes as your minimum marker.
Confidence is key to delivering a good speech so try to get it written and ready a good while before the day and practise as much as you can. The better you know the key points of your speech, the more relaxed you will be and, remember, the groom chose you to be best man so be yourself.
A good best man's speech includes jokes (good jokes, not dirty ones), a story or two about the couple (how they met, how happy they are together - stories that are appropriate for all ages), a thank you to all who made the wedding possible (such as whoever paid for the event) and, finally, a toast to a successful future.
You should try to make your stories balanced between the bride and the groom, but as you are the groom's best man you may not know the bride as well. In this case, it's always good to talk about the groom's feeling for the bride. This is generally the time to act as a salesman, talking up your friend to the bride's family who may not know the groom - what you tell them may help to form their first impression.
It is always best to err on the side of caution with your speech - being boring or soppy is a lot better than being offensive. Telling dirty jokes or speaking about the groom's ex-girlfriend may get a few laughs from your mates, but the bride's parents and elderly relatives may not be amused, and if it's you that's blamed for ruining the wedding with your inappropriate speech it's more likely to be you than the wedding insurance providers who ends up shelling out compensation.
So follow these tips and help make the wedding a memorable celebration for your best friend.
By Reagan Blackpool
As with many changing customs and traditions, the financing of a wedding has changed too. It is no longer written in stone as to who is required to pay for different aspects of a wedding. In fact, many brides and grooms are paying for their own wedding.
However, here are the "traditional" roles in financing a wedding for your convenience:
* THE BRIDE generally pays for the groom's wedding ring, lodging for her out of town attendants, a luncheon or party for her bridesmaids, a wedding gift for her future husband, and gifts for the bridesmaids.
* THE GROOM generally pays for engagement ring and the bride's wedding rings, any fees for the marriage license and/or other legal documents. He also finances the costs of the honeymoon, a wedding gift for his future wife, lodging for his out of town attendants, the clergy fee, and transportation.
* THE BRIDESMAIDS and MAID OF HONOR generally pay for the bridal shower, and the bachelorette party. They also pay for their own gowns and accessories.
* THE GROOMSMEN and BEST MAN generally pay for the bachelor party and for their own tuxedos or other formal wear.
* PARENTS OF THE GROOM generally pay for the rehearsal dinner, and/or after wedding brunch. Of course, they also give a generous gift to the couple.
* PARENTS OF THE BRIDE generally pay for everything else. This comes from the old tradition of dowry. They pay for everything needed for the reception, including music, flowers, the reception facility, food, bar costs, and anything else. They also buy their daughter her bridal gown, pay any gratuities, and of course, they also give a generous gift to the couple.
As stated these are not rules but merely guidelines. Your own personal finances will dictate what type of wedding reception you have, and who pays for what is entirely up to you and your families.
by Kristin Oiam
However, here are the "traditional" roles in financing a wedding for your convenience:
* THE BRIDE generally pays for the groom's wedding ring, lodging for her out of town attendants, a luncheon or party for her bridesmaids, a wedding gift for her future husband, and gifts for the bridesmaids.
* THE GROOM generally pays for engagement ring and the bride's wedding rings, any fees for the marriage license and/or other legal documents. He also finances the costs of the honeymoon, a wedding gift for his future wife, lodging for his out of town attendants, the clergy fee, and transportation.
* THE BRIDESMAIDS and MAID OF HONOR generally pay for the bridal shower, and the bachelorette party. They also pay for their own gowns and accessories.
* THE GROOMSMEN and BEST MAN generally pay for the bachelor party and for their own tuxedos or other formal wear.
* PARENTS OF THE GROOM generally pay for the rehearsal dinner, and/or after wedding brunch. Of course, they also give a generous gift to the couple.
* PARENTS OF THE BRIDE generally pay for everything else. This comes from the old tradition of dowry. They pay for everything needed for the reception, including music, flowers, the reception facility, food, bar costs, and anything else. They also buy their daughter her bridal gown, pay any gratuities, and of course, they also give a generous gift to the couple.
As stated these are not rules but merely guidelines. Your own personal finances will dictate what type of wedding reception you have, and who pays for what is entirely up to you and your families.
by Kristin Oiam
A best man's speech can make or break a wedding but by using common sense you can make sure your toast is remembered for all the right reasons
A wedding is certainly a nerve racking day for the couple of the day, but the nerves also extend to the best man who has the difficult job of coming up with a memorable speech at the reception.
The main problem people have with their speech is that they overcomplicate things and make things harder for themselves. A good best man's speech should be short and snappy - more than five minutes and people's thought start to wander, longer than seven and people start to get bored. While brevity is important, it's good to use two minutes as your minimum marker.
Confidence is key to delivering a good speech so try to get it written and ready a good while before the day and practise as much as you can. The better you know the key points of your speech, the more relaxed you will be and, remember, the groom chose you to be best man so be yourself.
A good best man's speech includes jokes (good jokes, not dirty ones), a story or two about the couple (how they met, how happy they are together - stories that are appropriate for all ages), a thank you to all who made the wedding possible (such as whoever paid for the event) and, finally, a toast to a successful future.
You should try to make your stories balanced between the bride and the groom, but as you are the groom's best man you may not know the bride as well. In this case, it's always good to talk about the groom's feeling for the bride. This is generally the time to act as a salesman, talking up your friend to the bride's family who may not know the groom - what you tell them may help to form their first impression.
It is always best to err on the side of caution with your speech - being boring or soppy is a lot better than being offensive. Telling dirty jokes or speaking about the groom's ex-girlfriend may get a few laughs from your mates, but the bride's parents and elderly relatives may not be amused, and if it's you that's blamed for ruining the wedding with your inappropriate speech it's more likely to be you than the wedding insurance providers who ends up shelling out compensation.
So follow these tips and help make the wedding a memorable celebration for your best friend.
By Reagan Blackpool
A wedding is certainly a nerve racking day for the couple of the day, but the nerves also extend to the best man who has the difficult job of coming up with a memorable speech at the reception.
The main problem people have with their speech is that they overcomplicate things and make things harder for themselves. A good best man's speech should be short and snappy - more than five minutes and people's thought start to wander, longer than seven and people start to get bored. While brevity is important, it's good to use two minutes as your minimum marker.
Confidence is key to delivering a good speech so try to get it written and ready a good while before the day and practise as much as you can. The better you know the key points of your speech, the more relaxed you will be and, remember, the groom chose you to be best man so be yourself.
A good best man's speech includes jokes (good jokes, not dirty ones), a story or two about the couple (how they met, how happy they are together - stories that are appropriate for all ages), a thank you to all who made the wedding possible (such as whoever paid for the event) and, finally, a toast to a successful future.
You should try to make your stories balanced between the bride and the groom, but as you are the groom's best man you may not know the bride as well. In this case, it's always good to talk about the groom's feeling for the bride. This is generally the time to act as a salesman, talking up your friend to the bride's family who may not know the groom - what you tell them may help to form their first impression.
It is always best to err on the side of caution with your speech - being boring or soppy is a lot better than being offensive. Telling dirty jokes or speaking about the groom's ex-girlfriend may get a few laughs from your mates, but the bride's parents and elderly relatives may not be amused, and if it's you that's blamed for ruining the wedding with your inappropriate speech it's more likely to be you than the wedding insurance providers who ends up shelling out compensation.
So follow these tips and help make the wedding a memorable celebration for your best friend.
By Reagan Blackpool
